Psychology of Conversations: How to Never Run Out of Things to Say

Psychology of Conversations: How to Never Run Out of Things to Say In this video, we break down the psychology of going quiet in conversation, using Tanya Stivers's cross-linguistic research on the 200-millisecond turn-taking gap, Romeo and colleagues' 2018 Harvard study on conversational turns and child brain development, David Clark and Adrian Wells's observer perspective model, Michael Kardas, Amit Kumar and Nicholas Epley's work on why we think we're boring, and Adam Mastroianni, Daniel Gilbert, Gus Cooney and Timothy Wilson's 2021 study of 932 conversations. You don't run out of things to say. You were trained out of saying them. And once you see the three things keeping the gate shut, the silence stops feeling like proof you have nothing to offer. Which of the three was yours? Waiting for the gap, giving the safe answer, or watching yourself the whole time? Be honest in the comments. I read every one of them. #psychology #conversation #socialanxiety #childhoodwounds #selfawareness #communication #psychvis --- Research referenced: Stivers, T., et al. (2009). Universals and cultural variation in turn-taking in conversation. PNAS. Romeo, R. R., et al. (2018). Beyond the 30-million-word gap: Children's conversational exposure is associated with language-related brain function. Psychological Science. Clark, D. M., & Wells, A. (1995). A cognitive model of social phobia. Kardas, M., Kumar, A., & Epley, N. — beliefs about boring; underestimating the value of deeper conversation. Mastroianni, A. M., Gilbert, D. T., Cooney, G., & Wilson, T. D. (2021). Do conversations end when people want them to? PNAS. --- Disclaimer: This video is for educational and informational purposes only and does not constitute professional psychological or medical advice. If you're struggling with your mental health, please reach out to a licensed therapist or mental health professional.