Episode 36: The Blame Game: Moving from Finger-Pointing to Connection

Humans are wired to make meaning out of what happens to us, so when something feels bad, we go looking for a reason (in an effort to avoid it next time). In relationships, that search often turns into blame…which devolves into criticism instead of the actual result we're hoping for. In this episode, Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy (relationship & sex therapist) and Dr. Alex DiGrado (pelvic floor physical therapist) explain why blame and anger are usually secondary emotions covering something else underneath, and how naming that feeling gets you closer to real accountability and change than pointing fingers ever will. Dr. Rebecca also shares how this shows up with her own kids, plus a personal update on 40 days of yoga nidra that's changed how she handles the heated moments. *What you'll learn* Humans being “meaning makers” is a survival instinct that sometimes goes awry. The difference between truly taking responsibility…and just taking the blame to keep the peace. Vulnerability will always get you further than blame. Kids learn to stop blaming each other by watching us take accountability *Tune in if you've ever thought* "Why do I get so defensive the second something comes up? Am I just being too sensitive?” "My kid blames everyone else for their behavior. Is that normal?" "Why is it so hard to talk about how I feel instead of just what they did wrong?" *Helpful resources* Find a pelvic floor PT near you: pelvicrehab.com Parents in Love: A Guide to Great Sex After Kids by Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy Learn more about Ali Schmidt's yoga nidra practice here: www.restwithali.com Listen to our podcast episode with Ali here:    • Episode 23: You’re Tired, But Are You Actu...   *Connect with us* Dr. Rebecca Howard Eudy Website: rebeccaeudy.com Instagram: @rebeccahowardeudy Newsletter: Parents in Love Substack (substack.com/@parentsinlove) Dr. Alexandra DiGrado Website: bostonpelvicpt.com Instagram: @bostonpelvicpt Newsletter: tinyurl.com/UTHNews Under the Hood Podcast Instagram: @underthehooddocs Website: underthehoodpod.com *** Enjoyed this episode? Please follow our show, share it with a friend, or leave a review to help more people discover these important conversations - thank you!