How to Actually Make a Decision: A 4-Step Process for Overthinkers

You can ask ten people what they think. You can journal about it. You can put affirmations on your mirror, your bracelets, and your water bottle. Tyler's done all of it, and none of it made the decision for her. In this episode, she walks through the process she actually uses to decide: who she asks and why (hint: it's for information, never validation), the body scan that tells her yes or no before her brain does, and the one shift that finally built her confidence after years of pumping herself up didn't. What you'll hear: Why the outfit sitting in your closet and the decision sitting in your business are the same problem Tyler's 4-step decision process: ask for info, run a body check, come back to your intuition, sleep on it The body signals that mean "not a fit" (clenched teeth, tightening, pulling back) and the ones that mean go The 1 AM wake-up call nobody actually assigned you: how high achievers manufacture their own pressure The book example: why building behind closed doors means launching to crickets Receivership: the lesson that changed everything for a lifelong giver Why the move happens first and the confidence comes second, never the other way around The three steps from the trapeze platform you can use on any scary decision today Chapters 0:00 What you need to make a decision 0:30 Business decisions vs. personal decisions 0:55 The outfit in the closet 1:45 The same stall shows up in your business 1:55 Step one: ask around, but for information, never validation 2:35 Step two: the body check (clenched teeth means no) 3:10 Step three: always come back to your intuition 3:25 Decide for today, not your five-years-from-now self 3:50 Step four: sleep on it, then replay the worst-case stories 4:25 You pause because you care 5:05 Why it feels scary when you've been rejected before 6:05 The conditioning high-achieving women carry 6:30 Nobody assigned the 1 AM deadline but you 7:40 What real support sounds like 8:40 The book nobody knew about 9:55 Receivership: the lesson Tyler had to learn 11:00 The giver who never received 12:55 There's no ready. Today is ready. 13:50 The move happens, then the confidence comes 15:50 Step to the edge, take a deep breath, let go About the podcast Mishaps, Magic and Mayhem is for high-achieving women in transition. Founders, executives, and changemakers who are done circling the decision, done people-pleasing, and ready to move before they feel ready. Real stories, real clients, no toxic positivity. About Tyler Tyler Skinner is a life and business coach and the founder of Women Making Waves. She rebuilt after losing 90% of her business in a week, turned down a $30K contract that wasn't right, and climbed a 50-foot trapeze platform terrified of heights. Every framework she teaches came from a decision she almost didn't make. In 90 days, she helps women push past fear of failure to make an embodied, trusted decision and take strategic action toward it. Connect with Tyler Take the 2-minute quiz that names what's shaping your decisions, your growth edge, and the support that moves you forward fastest: https://women-making-waves.involve.me... Website: https://thetylerskinner.com Instagram:   / thetylerskinner   LinkedIn:   / tyler-skinner-ba3b78189   Women Making Waves community: https://women-making-waves.com Book a call: https://zcal.co/wmw/connect #TylerSkinner #WomenMakingWaves #DecisionMaking #Confidence #HighAchievingWomen #TrustYourGut #Overthinking #TakeAction #LifeCoachForWomen #WomenInBusiness