You Say Yes to Everyone Except Yourself

Everybody likes you. You're the one who always says yes. And that's exactly the problem. An animated story about people pleasing: the five lies that keep you saying yes, what the research says about saying no, and how to start saying yes on purpose. 0:00 You say yes to everyone 0:41 Lie #1: They'll leave if you say no 1:39 Lie #2: You're only useful 3:17 Lie #3: They'll hate you 4:25 Lie #4: You're so selfish 6:18 Lie #5: Say yes, or be alone 7:09 Yes, on purpose Try it this week: say no to one small thing you don't want to do. Kindly. Then watch what actually happens. Sources Givi, J., & Kirk, C. P. (2023). Saying no: The negative ramifications from invitation declines are less severe than we think. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. https://doi.org/10.1037/pspi0000443 Flynn, F. J., & Lake, V. K. B. (2008). "If you need help, just ask": Underestimating compliance with direct requests for help. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 95(1), 128–143. Bohns, V. K. (2016). (Mis)Understanding our influence over others: A review of the underestimation-of-compliance effect. Current Directions in Psychological Science, 25(2), 119–123. Patrick, V. M., & Hagtvedt, H. (2012). "I don't" versus "I can't": When empowered refusal motivates goal-directed behavior. Journal of Consumer Research, 39(2), 371–381. Narration: ElevenLabs. Shadow voice synthesized with Piper TTS using the LibriTTS voice model (CC BY 4.0). Font: Comic Neue (SIL Open Font License). Animation, music & sound effects: original. #peoplepleasing #howtosayno #boundaries #psychology #animation #selfimprovement #mentalhealth