How to Become Likeable: 8 Habits That Make People Want You Around

How to make people like you: 8 research-backed habits that make people feel interested in, seen, and valued. This is not a personality trait. It's a handful of small behaviors, and here is the psychology behind each one. 0:00 The person everyone drifts toward 0:45 Habit 1: Ask the follow-up question 1:38 Habit 2: Hand them the spotlight 2:16 Habit 3: Celebrate their good news 3:11 Habit 4: Say the nice thing out loud 3:47 Habit 5: Say thank you properly 4:23 Habit 6: Be the one who reaches out first 5:06 Habit 7: Assume they like you 5:49 Habit 8: Lead with warmth "Magnetic" isn't a scientific term. It's my word for behaviors that help people feel interested in, seen, and valued. Most of the studies below are short interactions, often with strangers, and several show associations, not guarantees. Treat them as eight experiments, not eight laws. Research mentioned: Huang, Yeomans, Brooks, Minson & Gino (2017). It Doesn't Hurt to Ask: Question-Asking Increases Liking. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Tamir & Mitchell (2012). Disclosing information about the self is intrinsically rewarding. PNAS 109(21). Gable, Reis, Impett & Asher (2004). What do you do when things go right? Journal of Personality and Social Psychology 87(2). Boothby & Bohns. Research on giving compliments. Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin. Kumar & Epley (2018). Undervaluing gratitude. Psychological Science. Liu, Rim, Min & Min (2022). The surprise of reaching out. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. Boothby, Cooney, Sandstrom & Clark (2018). The liking gap in conversations. Psychological Science. Fiske, Cuddy & Glick (2007). Universal dimensions of social cognition: warmth and competence. Trends in Cognitive Sciences 11(2). This video is for general information and storytelling, not therapy. Subscribe to Your Panic Button for more videos on how people actually behave. Which of the eight do you already do without thinking? Tell me in the comments. #psychology #socialskills #charisma