If You Feel Like a Bad Parent for Resenting Your Kids, Watch This | #544

Today, Emilia and Bianca take on one of the most taboo truths of parenthood: the resentment, grief, and loss so many parents feel about the lives they had before kids, and why the narrative that your life is over once you become a parent is hurting parents and children alike. In this episode, we unpack the myth that having children means you stop being a person, what disenfranchised grief is and why parents carry so much of it alongside shame, and how having kids to meet a societal marker can lead to resenting both our children and ourselves. Through real client stories, they explore the painful messages kids absorb from parents who resented them, what being a "good" mom or dad actually means once you strip away the conditioning, why equal partnership in raising children matters, and how small, smart choices can help you reclaim who you are beyond mom, dad, husband, or wife. If you've ever felt like a bad parent for missing your old life, this conversation is your permission to admit it and start doing something about it. Here's a related episode that builds on today's conversation: #521 | How to Trust Yourself and Eliminate Self-Doubt -    • How to Trust Yourself and Eliminate Self-D...   Learn more about: 🤝 Out of the Mud (OOTM) - "Why Change Feels So Uncomfortable (Even When You Want It)" - https://us02web.zoom.us/meeting/regis... 📆 Evolve Group Coaching - https://evolveventurestech.com/evolve... 📽️ Insightful films. Meaningful growth. Join our Evolve Movie Club - https://forms.gle/bBZUbFEeD2ijypCT7 🌱 The #YouDoYou Therapy Program gives you support when and how you need it. No pressure. Just real help. Start your free 7-day trial today - https://buy.stripe.com/fZe8Avdfx8bW9g... Connect with Emilia, Bianca & the EVOLVE VENTURES Community: Website: http://www.evolveventurestech.com Instagram -   / evolveventures   Facebook -   / evolveventurestech   (Public Page) Evolve Ventures Society (Private Facebook Group) -   / 457130589193794   Emilia's IG -   / evolvewithemilia   Emilia's TikTok -   / evolvewithemilia   Bianca's IG -   / evolvewithbianca   Bianca's TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@evolvewithbia... Connect with Emilia from Evolve Ventures for FREE: https://calendly.com/emiliasmith/free... Show notes: 0:00 Cold open: Your life isn't over when you have kids 0:33 The myth that parents stop being people 3:31 Why taboo turns into shame 5:28 Disenfranchised grief and parental resentment 11:01 A client who never wanted to be a dad 15:11 Isaac shares his experience as a member of the Evolve Ventures 16:19 Societal standards and parental guilt 18:14 What kids hear from parents who resent them 21:51 What does it mean to be a good parent? 27:31 Making conscious choices about family 31:00 Outro: Small, smart choices and episode recommendation Leave them a 5-star review if you felt their energy, became inspired, or felt the value was added to your life in your EVOLUTION. (Stay tuned for this coming Monday's episode!)