The Law of the Reverse Magnet: How to Make Someone Want You Without Chasing Anyone | Lao Tzu

The harder you chase someone, the further they drift. Lao Tzu's law of the reverse magnet shows how to stop chasing and let what's yours come to you. The sea never calls a single river, yet every river flows to it. In this lesson we follow Lao Tzu's image of the sea that lies low (Tao Te Ching, chapter 66), Chuang Tzu's story of the man who ran from his own shadow, and his strange tale of the ugliest man in the state of Wei, whom a duke begged to take over his kingdom. Together they reveal the law of the reverse magnet: people are drawn to stillness, not to effort. In this video: 00:00 The law of the reverse magnet 02:01 The old man at the mountain pass 03:21 The tide and the breath 04:55 We learned it upside down 05:30 Lesson one: the sea lies low 08:12 Lesson two: the shadow and the shade 10:59 Lesson three: still water and the ugliest man in Wei 15:33 Lesson four: your kind of chasing 18:10 Six traps on the way 20:02 Lesson five: the sea doesn't count the rivers 21:35 The seven-day practice 23:22 A thousand small returns 23:55 What we learned today 24:34 A last word The 7-day practice: a glass of still water each evening, the shade pause, the low seat, and one week without a single move made out of fear. Subscribe to Tao Lessons and turn on the bell for a new ancient lesson every week. And tell me in the comments: which chase are you going to set down first? Sources: Lao Tzu — Tao Te Ching, chapter 66 (James Legge translation, 1891) Lao Tzu — Tao Te Ching, chapter 22 (James Legge translation, 1891) Chuang Tzu — chapter 5, "The Seal of Virtue Complete" (James Legge translation, 1891) Chuang Tzu — chapter 5 (Herbert A. Giles translation, 1889) Chuang Tzu — chapter 31, "The Old Fisherman" (James Legge translation, 1891) Daniel Wegner et al. — "Paradoxical effects of thought suppression," Journal of Personality and Social Psychology (1987) This video is for educational and philosophical purposes and is not a substitute for professional medical or mental health advice. #LaoTzu #Taoism #LettingGo