Is It Selfish to Say No? Why Healthy Selfishness Makes You Kinder | Healthy Selfishness Ep. 2

Episode 2: Healthy Selfishness — A Necessary Evolution For years, I believed that giving more made me a better person. That the exhaustion was proof I was doing it right. That my needs were a problem to manage, not a signal to listen to. It wasn't noble. It was slowly killing me. In Episode 2 of The Nurtured Queen Podcast, I'm getting honest about the dark side of selflessness — how it becomes a form of control, how it quietly turns us resentful and toxic, and how the reframe to "healthy selfishness" isn't about putting yourself first no matter what. It's about finally believing that you matter too. In this episode: • The lie we've been told about selfishness • Six signs your selflessness has crossed the line • Why over-giving is actually a form of control • The dark side of altruism without boundaries • The "me too" reframe — and how to actually practice it • Daily moves to start putting your needs on the list 👉 Download the free Toxic Lifestyle Audit worksheet: https://bit.ly/toxic-lifestyle-audit 👑 Order The Nurtured Queen: What Toxic Love Cost Me and What Healing Restored — Mi'Esha's debut memoir: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0HN8F32V5 📬 Join The Nurtured Queen community: thenurturedqueen.com The Nurtured Queen Podcast is for women rebuilding themselves after loving the wrong people, places, and patterns. New episodes drop every Thursday. 📚 SOURCES ❤️ Heart disease caused 304,970 deaths among U.S. women in 2023, about 1 in 5 female deaths. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), “About Women and Heart Disease” https://www.cdc.gov/heart-disease/abo... ❤️ Only about half (56%) of U.S. women recognize heart disease as their #1 killer. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), “About Women and Heart Disease” https://www.cdc.gov/heart-disease/abo... ❤️ Stress can contribute to behaviors and factors that raise heart disease risk. American Heart Association, “Stress and Heart Health” https://www.heart.org/en/healthy-livi... American Heart Association News, “Chronic stress can cause heart trouble” https://www.heart.org/en/news/2020/02... #TheNurturedQueen #HealthySelfishness #Boundaries #BlackWomenHealing #PeoplePleasing #SelfAwareness #PersonalGrowth