The Real Reason Ambitious Women Are Still Single | Amy Chan, Founder of Renew Breakup Bootcamp

"We know about sunk cost fallacy in finance, and we're doing the same thing with our relationships." Amy Chan turned the worst year of her life, a layoff and a cheating boyfriend in one blow, into the first science-based breakup bootcamp. Before she was a relationship expert, Amy was a marketing director at a luxury travel company. She got laid off, moved in with her boyfriend, and found out he was cheating. She wasn't just grieving the relationship; she was grieving her entire life plan. It took her two and a half years to rebuild, and she came out the other side determined to create what didn't exist for her: Renew Breakup Bootcamp, a four-day retreat in nature where a team of 10 experts in neuroscience, somatic therapy, and sex therapy run programming from 8:30am to 9pm. The first retreat had seven people, and three of them were her friends. She grew it two seats at a time while working as CMO of SPIN, the ping pong club chain, then went full time in 2017. Ten years of retreats later, she's a two-time author whose work has been covered by The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and Good Morning America, her new book Unsingle is out now, and 80% of her one-on-one clients get into a relationship within a year. We get into the layoff and the breakup that started it all, why playing down your success to land a man is a bait and switch that backfires, the difference between a preference and a deal breaker (the height requirement comes up), the nine-date experiment that took one client from a seven-year situationship to a marriage, the con artist who courted Amy with flowers and fancy dinners for three months, the four things every lasting relationship needs (chemistry, compatibility, timing, mutuality), and why the loudest dating advice on Instagram comes from the least qualified people. 🎟️ The inaugural Womansplain Summit is October 16 at The Malin Chelsea, NYC, keynoted by Robinhood CIO Stephanie Guild. 120 seats, most already spoken for: luma.com/7bxd1137 💌 Join the Womansplain Collective+ for founder matching, member dinners, and priority Summit access: womansplainpod.com/membership Find Renew Breakup Bootcamp: renewbreakupbootcamp.com | IG @renewyourheart | Amy Chan: IG @missamychan | TikTok @missamychan Find Womansplain: IG @womansplainpod | hello@womansplainpod.com