163: 3 Myths About Desire That Keep Marriages Stuck

After more than a decade of coaching women through marriage struggles, I’ve learned that desire in long-term relationships is widely misunderstood. We think it’s a magical feeling that appears when we’re with the “right” person, that it should always be spontaneous, and that focusing on our own pleasure is selfish. The truth is, desire takes effort, intention, and a willingness to be an active participant in creating it. Familiarity, daily responsibilities, and unresolved hurts can all drain desire. But we can bring it back by making space for spontaneity and adventure, planning intimacy so we can be present for it, and giving ourselves permission to care about our own pleasure. Desire doesn’t just happen—it’s something we can nurture if we choose. ➡️ Listen to the Full Episode: https://sharonpope.com/podcast/episod... ➡️ What You’ll Learn In This Episode: 3:22 - The key paradox of relationships 4:46 - The conflict of your resonsible adult self and your erotic adult self 8:11 - The first myth of desire: it’s magical 9:40 - The second myth and spontaneity 12:40 - The last myth of desire and selfishness (hint: we’re taught to be the opposite) ➡️ Featured On The Show: • Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage? Book a Truth & Clarity Session https://clarityformymarriage.com/t-c-... • If you have a suggestion for a future episode or a question you’d like me to answer on the show, email us. ➡️ Don’t miss an episode! Subscribe to The Loving Truth Podcast: Apple Podcasts: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/4Djigxp... ** Hi, I'm Sharon Pope. I help women struggling in disconnected marriages get the confidence and clarity they need to either fix their marriage or move forward without regret. If you’d like to explore whether or not there’s a fit for us to work together to get the clarity you need, go to http://www.ClarityForMyMarriage.com 🫶 FREE COURSE: https://sharonpopefreetraining.com/fr... 🎙️ LISTEN TO THE PODCAST: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast... 📖 BOOK - STAY OR GO: http://www.SharonPopeBook.com ▶️ SUBSCRIBE TO THE CHANNEL: http://bit.ly/SubscribeSharonPope 📧 EMAIL: support@SharonPope.com 🏠 WEBSITE: https://www.sharonpope.com/ 📍 INSTAGRAM, FACEBOOK, TIKTOK: @sharonpopecoach 🖱️ BLOG: http://www.sharonpope.com/blog ***** Sharon is a certified Master Life Coach and a seven-time International Best-Selling Author on love and relationships. She has been published dozens of times, including in the New York Times, has 300+ blog posts and 300+ YouTube videos.