Grief, paperwork & the 5 hard things I’ve had to learn after losing her. A bit caffeine fuelled!

When someone you love passes away, you expect the heartbreak—but no one prepares you for the sudden, cold switch into practical bureaucracy. From phone calls and endless paperwork to closing accounts, "death admin" arrives at the exact moment your world has stopped, even as the rest of the world keeps rushing on. In this video, I share my honest experience navigating the administrative side of loss after Lisa passed away, alongside five hard-earned lessons and reflections I've taken from the journey. Along the way, ordinary life carries on: finding a surprisingly peaceful green pocket in Manor Royal industrial estate while waiting on my daughter's car MOT, grabbing a coffee, and heading out for an afternoon dog walk back home. Stick around for the postscript at the end, where I share a gentle (and slightly humorous) thought on why you really shouldn't worry about what strangers think if you're ever walking around vlogging in public! I hope sharing these thoughts brings a bit of comfort, solidarity, or gentle guidance to anyone currently facing this road. Be kind to yourself. ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 🕒 Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction 01:02 - Background 10:35 - 5 things I have learnt 13:52 - After thoughts 19:12 - Post Script, thoughts on Vlogging in public ━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━━ 💬 How did you cope with the administrative side of losing someone? If you have thoughts, advice, or simply want to share your experience, please feel free to leave a comment below. ❤️ Follow the journey: • Watch Lisa's Story:    • Lisa’s Story. I lost my soulmate, my best ...   • Luby-Lou’s Origins:    • The origins of Luby-Lou Van and a trip to ...