Why Can't I Just Feel Okay?

Have you ever noticed how quickly one thing going wrong can make everything in your life start to feel wrong? You fall behind at work, and suddenly you're questioning how you're taking care of your body. You notice the house is a mess. You wonder if you're spending enough time with your kids. You start worrying about your relationship, your finances, or something else you should be doing better. Underneath all of those seemingly separate concerns may be one adapted belief: Everything has to be going perfectly, or close to perfectly, for me to feel okay. In this video, I show you how a belief like this develops and how it can become an operating system that affects what you notice, what things mean to you, your thoughts and emotions, your nervous system, your actions, and ultimately the life you create. We also explore why simply telling yourself to stop being a perfectionist doesn't work. If you've spent years trying to make yourself and your circumstances better so that you can finally feel okay, letting go of that strategy may not feel safe. The answer isn't to stop wanting more for yourself or your life. It's learning that everything doesn't have to be okay for you to be okay. I'll show you what that looked like for me during a difficult day and give you a simple practice for coming back to your Expansive Self, getting resourced, and deciding from there what actually needs your attention and what can simply be imperfect today. Because a beautiful life isn't a life where everything is going beautifully all the time. It's a life you get to enjoy when things are going well and still feel connected to yourself and resourced when they're not. Continue the Adapted Self vs. Expansive Self series: Video 1: Adapted Self vs. Expansive Self    • Why Do I Do What I Do Even When I Don't Wa...   Video 2: Practice for Identifying Your Adaptations    • Why Does Your Life Keep Repeating Itself?   Want to go deeper? You're Not the Problem will help you understand how your adaptations formed, recognize the beliefs and patterns still shaping your life, and begin building the safety and capacity to live more from your Expansive Self. Get the book here: https://www.lorimontry.com/books #Perfectionism #NervousSystem #SelfDevelopment #YoureNotTheProblem